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Essays, episodes, and reflections — one new piece of each, every week.
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THIS WEEK'S ESSAY
The Irony of Trying to Rest
There is a kind of movement inside us that can be incredibly hard to stop—a persistent reaching for the next thought, the next worry, the next place for our attention to land. This essay explores the paradox that trying to rest often becomes just another form of effort, and the realization that the goal isn't to permanently unhook our minds, but to simply notice when we're gripping too tightly.Â
THIS WEEK'S EPISODE
Unhook Your Consciousness
We tend to think of resting as watching a show or scrolling on our phones, but in those moments, our consciousness is still completely hooked. In this episode, we explore the biological habit of always needing something to chew on, and the irony that trying to rest often becomes just another exhausting project. We talk about putting down the heavy coats we carry, offering a gentle hand to our own minds, and finding the open space where we can actually be present in our lives.
THIS WEEK'S REFLECTION
Letting Your Attention Rest
There are moments when your mind won’t stop reaching—grabbing for the next thought, the next focus, the next thing to do. Even rest can start to feel like effort.
This guided meditation offers a different way of relating to that impulse by gently noticing the movement and allowing your attention to rest, even briefly, without needing to follow it.
What happens when the field designed to support the human soul slowly begins to reject it?
This question has followed me for years, largely because I live on both sides of it. I am a therapist. I have been deeply helped by therapy—by one therapist in particular who helped stabilize my relationships...
I was working in a recovery center for addiction several years back, and we had a client return after a year of sobriety.
There’s something unmistakable about the energy of someone who has found their way back. Sobriety carries a particular kind of presence—tender, awake, almost reverent. When some...
There are moments when something from the past rises with the same intensity it once had, and the mind rushes to explain it as regression, as though time were a straight line and you somehow walked backward on it, as though progress were something that could be undone by a single reaction, memor
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