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Essays, episodes, and reflections — one new piece of each, every week.
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THIS WEEK'S ESSAY
The Irony of Trying to Rest
There is a kind of movement inside us that can be incredibly hard to stop—a persistent reaching for the next thought, the next worry, the next place for our attention to land. This essay explores the paradox that trying to rest often becomes just another form of effort, and the realization that the goal isn't to permanently unhook our minds, but to simply notice when we're gripping too tightly.Â
THIS WEEK'S EPISODE
Unhook Your Consciousness
We tend to think of resting as watching a show or scrolling on our phones, but in those moments, our consciousness is still completely hooked. In this episode, we explore the biological habit of always needing something to chew on, and the irony that trying to rest often becomes just another exhausting project. We talk about putting down the heavy coats we carry, offering a gentle hand to our own minds, and finding the open space where we can actually be present in our lives.
THIS WEEK'S REFLECTION
Letting Your Attention Rest
There are moments when your mind won’t stop reaching—grabbing for the next thought, the next focus, the next thing to do. Even rest can start to feel like effort.
This guided meditation offers a different way of relating to that impulse by gently noticing the movement and allowing your attention to rest, even briefly, without needing to follow it.
There’s a feeling I get sometimes when I finally stop moving.
It usually shows up after I’ve been going for a while — days where everything is full and layered and stacked on top of itself. Tasks, thoughts, responsibilities, conversations, plans. Then something interrupts the momentum. I sit down. ...
Lately, I’ve been noticing something in my practice that feels important enough to sit with a little longer. I work primarily with relationships — romantic relationships, friendships, family systems, and the relationship someone has with themselves — and especially with clients who are dating or lon...
Sometimes when I wake up, I just lie in bed and listen to the silence.
I sleep with earplugs, so the silence is loud in my ears. Dense. Almost humming. I can hear my heart beating. I can hear my breath moving in and out. I can hear my thoughts before they’ve fully taken shape. I can hear the swirli...
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